I'm writing this in retrospective. Because I can't get this girl out of my head.
So on Sat I went to a club with HBFlower. Just the two of us.
Had a really great time. So did she.
We spent most of the night talking. Getting to know each other. Occasionally we got up to dance when the DJ played some good music.
I learnt a lot about her and now I can't get her out of my head. I think she is amazing.
For the last 2 weeks we have been texting and chatting on the phone. I know there is interest there. She has even asked a female friend of mine what the status of our relationship was. I mean she came out with me on Sat by herself.
During the week I spent time defining the type of girl I am after. Well... she hits every single one. Oh except whether she can cook. I haven't asked her about that yet.
We also talked about what she was looking for in a guy. The funny thing is that every quality she mentioned, I am.
But she is not like the girls I am normally attracted too. She confesses to be shy, which I can see and I can tell she is a good girl. Not the type of girl I used to. I've normally dated the naughty but nice girls. Girls with a bit of an edge. This girl seems so good natured. And for some reason I find this attractive.
During the night we talked about whether we were single and available. There was some tension here, which I think was good. But I was a little bit nervous and really didn't go anywhere with it.
So now its been 3 days and I can't get her out of my head. I'm starting to fall back into my old self. Where I'm anxious and worried about saying or doing the wrong thing. Hopefully by writing this down I can get a better grip of things.
Valentine's day is this week and I should use this to my advantage. She'll be in my class Thur night which is a perfect opportunity to be proactive.
Next action I am going to take is:
• Use kino to build some more comfort. In retrospect, I used very little touching while we talked. Probably because I was a little bit nervous. But I guess the dancing was enough.
• Ask her for a Valentine's kiss (said with a cheeky smile). Of course I'm just asking for a peck on the cheek but will use the ambiguity to have some fun.
• Make a statement of interest.
The last one is the most critical. I have to let her know in some way that I'm clearly interested in her. I don't know how I'm going to do this exactly yet. I remember my ex approaching the subject by making the statement:
"There is definitely something there between us. I just had to say it because I don't know what to do about it."
I was thinking about using this. But with a more authoritative voice.
??
As I've never dated someone like her, I'm not sure the best way to proceed with this statement. But I'll find out.
Be good.
Cas
