I don't like my self image. The one that says I am not the type of person who can be comfortable in walking up to a girl and starting a conversation. "I am shy". "I'm not social". "They won't like me". "I'm boring". And the same image that blindly cripples me with knots in my stomach when I decide I'm going to push past my fear and walk over. Because I'm afraid of what people think of me.
So I want to change that image. Create a new image and make it real.
Its going to say: "I walk confidently among people. I do not fear walking up to anyone and starting a conversation. In fact I enjoy doing it. I am a interesting and entertaining man that people who are open, are receptive to. No matter who I talk to I can find common ground. I don't care what people think of me."
So for the next 21 days I am going to spend 30 mins each day visualising my new image. The first 10 days I am going to develop this "theatre" image. Building up the scenerio mentally to a flawless level. Then for the rest of the 11 days I'm going to replay this new image so that I become that image.
In fact, because I'm dedicated to achieving it I am going to give away $50 for each day I miss in the first 10 days and $100 for each day in the last 11 days. Let's be honest here: I'm a procrastinator! I need leverage and motivation. I haven't decided how I'm going to give away the money but that's could be almost $1000 if I don't stay motivated.
No execuses. Even if I'm sick!
How will I know that I have achieved this new image?
I think I can measure it by my ability to walk up to any stranger and strike up a conversation. If I can walk up to anyone effortlessly and converse for more than 5 mins, I'll say I've done it.
[Idea]: as an experiment after the 16th Dec I will ask a friend to point to a stranger. Then I'll will see if I can walk over and talk to them. If I can, it will be another indicator I have been sucessful.
No comments:
Post a Comment