W3: Tue 15 Jan 2008

W3: Tue 15 Jan 2008

Wednesday, 16 January 2008

9:12 AM

Talked to 1 person in grocery store today.

 

Sat in the park to have lunch. While there 2 workmates joined me. So managed to practice being social with these guys.

W3: Mon 16 Jan 2008

W3: Mon 16 Jan 2008

Tuesday, 15 January 2008

9:27 AM

Today I managed to talk to 1 woman today. I can do better. Because I am the type of person who loves talking to woman.

 

I managed to complete my SLA mission of disagreeing with someone. It was actually a lot of fun.

Week 3 - Goals

After finally getting some time and a process in place, I am now ready to begin working on my goals for this year. This week I going to hit all these goals:

• Each day talk to 5 women, for 15 seconds.
• Redo SLA mission “Disagree With Someone”.
• Friday: hit North Sydney. Approach 1 set with “Text Opener”.
• Sat: Go shopping. Walk up to 5 girls who are working, that I find attractive, and say “Hi”.
• Sun: Go shopping. Walk up to 5 girls who are working, that I find attractive, and say “Excuse me, can you help me. I'm having trouble right now I can't find a shirt that fits me. Can you help me pick out a shirt?"

My major aim here is to start getting back into the swing of talking to girls. I’m keen to start hitting the bars again. By the end of last year I was really getting frustrated with heading out. I found it hard. In my mind I was saying that these are not the venues for me to learn to become more social. But I know it not the right thought process. Just my mind trying to stay in that comfort zone. So the plan is to find some bars with a more relaxed and quieter atmosphere. A lounge bar or slow pub. Where there isn’t loud music and heaps of people crowded into a venue. Additionally, this year I am enforcing a new rule. No sarging after 10pm. No easy sloppy conquests. I want to met some quality women.

Welcome to 2008

Ahhh.. its 2008. A brand new year to start with a clean slate. Reach for the heavens and grab myself a star.

 

So many big plans for this year. But it wouldn’t be right to list these until I have a look at the things I achieved in 2007:

 

·         Conversation skills have improved: more focused and in the moment

·         More crowd confident

·         More party confident

·         Improved my career value

·         More social

·         Confident in doing things by myself

·         Made over 50 approaches using an opener

·         Approached close to 200 people

·         Finally noticed when a girl is attraction to me

·         Improved my banter

·         Got 5 # closes

·         Pushed myself out of my comfort zone

·         Increased my salary

·         Finish my first student choreography

·         Purchase my new Trek bike

·         Found a fantastic place to live

·         Studied Aikido

·         Purchased a notebook

 

My major goal for 2007 was to become a great socialiser. I think I’m pretty much on my way. For 2008 I want to push myself further. Reach even greater heights. This year I want meet, attract and pleasure at least 5 women. A modest goal. But an important one to meet my goals for 2009.

 

So my goals for 2008 are (in no particular order):

 

·         Double my investment

·         Become team leader

·         Purchase first bespoke suit

·         Remove wisdom teeth

·         Lose 15kg

·         Improve self image

·         Make 1000 approaches, 100 # closes, 10 Day 2s

·         Meet 5 awesome women

·         Meditate 1/ week

·         Yoga 1/ week

·         Run around bay without stopping

·         Learn to cook 12 recipes

·         Read 10 books

·         Participate in Sydney to Gong bike ride

·         Try 3 adventure sports: kite surfing, drive race/rally car

·         Finish SLA

·         Be fearless in approaching strangers in street

·         Invest in stockmarket

·         Watch opera

·         Watch a play

·         Take 2 holidays (1 local, 1 overseas)

·         Learn all design patterns

·         Learn about refactoring

 

 

Day 17

Done!

Pot is still at $50.

At the moment I'm finding this pretty hard to concentrate on. It maybe due
to the face that I'm doing my 30mins just before bed when I'm too
exhausted.

But I would have to say that I am refining this practice quote a lot in
how I need what I need to focus on. Not bad for my first time.

Day 16

Done

Pot = $50

Overall I'm feeling more confident.

Day 15

Done!

Pot = $50

Finding it hard to keep my concentration on this now. My image evolves as
I keep replaying the same scene. I've seen the power that this has and
also want to use it to work on other powerful images. Can't wait to try
the next phase out.

Day 14

Done!

Pot = $50

Spent Sunday night watching the sunset across the horizon. Absolutely
beautiful. Plan to get a nice two seater lounge for the balcony so that I
can enjoy it the view with a special someone.

Day 13 & Salsa Party

Partially done!
Tonight I only spent about 10-15 mins going through my visual image practice. I was running out of time before having to go to my salsa xmas party tonight. So I guess I'll have to leave this up to a peer's decision on whether I completed this or not. Part of my image is a hall filled with people talking and waiting for the music to begin. I see myself walking up to people I don't and finding out who they are. Essentially my salsa xmas party. Tonight was my image makeover in real life. How did I go? I smashed it. I spent most of the night going around talking to so many different people. People I knew, students from class, and complete strangers. It was a great night. My target was there. I did not feel any nerves or anxious feelings before or while I was talking to her. In fact I felt courageous. In fact most of the night I would see a group of girls and in 3 seconds I was of talking with them. Didn't get a chance to use any game material but I did use heaps of DW observation, with kino on the upper arm and shoulder, which is getting easier and easier to do. I found out a lot more about her. But as a mental note, I need to develop and apply specific skills to help me build up attraction. As far as the impact that my image practice is achieving, it is amazing. I was confident. Didn't care what people thought of me. I looked people in the eye as I listened. And most importantly I didn't find myself in the situation where I had nothing to say. One of my fears in this game. At this moment I really want to change the image I've been practicing to one where I approach complete strangers. But I think its important to finish this one off. Already its had a huge impact. I feel ready to get back out into some night game and create my new self image. (Because its easy to do!) N.B. I watched Don Juan DeMarco today before heading out. This movie is awesome. Talk about creating a strong enigmatic frame. Through the night I keep saying to myself, "I'm am Don Juan DeMarco... the greatest lover the world has ever seen!" There are some empowerment in these words.

Day 12

Done! Pot = $50 Caught up with my best mate tonight. Been ignoring him a little so wanted to put in the effort of hanging with him. Got a little bit too drunk. But the best thing was that all week I had been dieing for a game of chess and out of nowhere he grabs the board and says lets play!? Just another sign for that the world will provide you with all you need.